Footjob Footjob is a (non-penetrative) sexual practice with the feet that involves one’s feet being rubbed on a partner in order to induce sexual excitement, stimulation or orgasm. In some cases it can be part of a foot fetish. Footjobs are most often performed on males, with one partner using his/her feet and/or toes to stroke or rub the other partner’s genital area. Footjob may also refer to the practice of using one’s feet and/or toes to caress a female partner’s breasts or vulva.

Foot-jobs Popular culture
On an episode of Desperate Housewives, Gabrielle Solis (Eva Longoria) flirts with John Rowland (Jesse Metcalfe) by performing a quick footjob under a restaurant table.
The British film 9 Songs features a quick footjob in a bathtub sex scene between Matthew (Kieran O’Brien) and Lisa (Margo Stilley).
In the film The Beast (La Bête), Romilde de l’Esperance is chased by a werewolf-like creature, who receives sexual satisfaction from de l’Esperance by receiving a footjob from her (as well as other things) as she hangs on the branch of a tree.
In the movie War of the Roses, a character named Gavin gets a footjob from the woman he invites to dinner.

Foot fetishism

Foot fetishismFoot fetishism has been defined as a pronounced sexual interest in the feet or footwear. Sigmund Freud considered foot binding as a form of fetishism. For a foot fetishist, points of attraction include the shape and size of the foot and toes (e.g., long toes, short toes, painted toenails, high arches, soles etc.), jewelry (e.g., toe rings, anklets, etc.), treatments (such as pedicures or massaging), state of dress (barefoot, sandals, flip flops, high heels, socked feet, hosiery, etc.), odor, and/or sensory interaction (e.g., smelling the foot, licking, kissing, tickling, biting, sucking toes, etc.).
To estimate the relative frequency of fetishes, in 2006 researchers at the University of Bologna examined 381 internet discussions of fetish groups, in which at least 5,000 people had been participating. Researchers estimated the prevalences of different fetishes based on the following elements:

(a) the number of discussion groups devoted to a particular fetish
(b) the number of individuals participating in the groups; and
(c) the number of messages exchanged.
It was concluded that the most common fetishes were for body parts or for objects usually associated with body parts (33% and 30% respectively). Among those people preferring body parts, feet and toes were preferred by the greatest number, with 47% of those sampled preferring them. Among those people preferring objects related to body parts, 32% were in groups related to footwear (shoes, boots, etc.).

Foot fetishism is the most common form of sexual fetish related to the body.

In August 2006, AOL released a database of the search terms submitted by their subscribers. In ranking only those phrases that included the word “fetish”, it was found that the most common search was for feet.

Voulez-Vous… – Gift Box Saint Valentine

T Voulez-Vous... - Gift Box Saint Valentinhe Voulez-Vous gift box will allow you to play with yours and your partner’s senses.

This is a unique gift for special occasions. This box contains all the essentials to reach the height of eroticism. You can experience moments of pleasure with your lover never matched before. To intensify the desires that you feel for each other, you will get a taste for covering your partner’s entire body with a massage oil that has bewitching and aphrodisiac powers.

The box also includes body oils that will give sweet warm sensations to your entire being. Strokes and kisses on your skin will transcend you into a climax flavoured with the scents of your choice.
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All of this enticing menu can be found in this sensual gift box.

Every gift box is made up of:
– One massage oil (30 ml)
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This gift box includes:

– One massage oil
Envoûtante: Petals of Rose

– Two edible powders
Margarita and Red Fruits

– Three warming body oils
Champagne, Red Fruits and Fondant au Chocolat

Fifty Days of Play

Fifty Days of Play Fifty Days of Play offers 50 invitations for exciting, pleasurable adventures for loving couples who want to play.

Fifty Days of Play has five levels of sexy game-play with ten secret envelopes for each level, from Virginal White through Vanilla, Light and Dark Grey to Seductive Black and is packed with intimate and romantic gestures, stimulating scenarios, naughty suggestions and erotic surprises. Players are invited to roll the die to see what shade of naughtiness they will both be enjoying. The colour co-ordinated envelopes then decide who will be the dominant player and who will play a more submissive role today.

– 1 Dice
– 50 Envelopes ranging through 5 shades of naughtiness

Fifty Nights of Naughtiness

 Fifty Nights of NaughtinessTake 50 sizzling steps towards red hot passion!

With ten secret envelopes at each of the five levels of play, ranging from Virginal White, through Pink, Red, Scarlet to Black, 50 Nights of Naughtiness is filled with sensual ideas, naughty adventures, and erotic surprises. Introduce new thrills and ideas into your relationship whilst maintaining the loving intimacy that you and your partner already share.

Just roll the die to see what shade of naughtiness you will be enjoying tonight. Roll a yellow and you have the power to choose from any shade depending on your mood.

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– 10 Virginal White Envelopes – tender and romantic actions or suggestions
– 10 Pink Envelopes – cheeky and teasing actions or suggestions
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– 10 Scarlet Envelopes – erotic and naughty actions or suggestions
– 10 Black Envelopes – kinky and experiemental actions or suggestions

Bondage: tied up in stockings

simple-bondage“We feel stockings and bondage go together. It has helped our boredom and saved our floundering lacklustre lovemaking. While we realize bondage isn’t for all, it can be great if there is love and trust. Limits must be set. Our hearts went out to a friend who had a boyfriend who tried to force her into anal sex against her will. This is what gives B&D a bad name. If done properly it is exciting and fulfilling.”

“We are an old married couple who like to spice up our life, too. Bondage, if mutually accepted, can be extremely erotic and satisfying. Our kids are gone. I retired early and we have found joy in roleplay B&D. It doesn’t need to be expensive. You can use things around the house that cost much less. Rope from a clothesline, a practice golf ball for a gag–and what better way to use laddered stockings than for restraints or gags or blindfolds. Bondage can be fun but we encourage sanity and talking limits BEFORE doing it.”

“I’ve always steered clear of getting into this subject here because the bondage thing doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand with stockings per se (for a lot of people, that is, although it always does with me) and its a subject about which there is a good deal of ignorance.

“I have tied one of my partner’s legs to the bed post. She was wearing white stay up stockings and 5″ white heels. She sat on the edge of the bed while I eased her out of the lacy white panties she was wearing. I used the panties to tie her right leg to the bed post, but she had free movement of her left leg, which was still on the floor. I peeled of her left heel and began massaging her stockinged foot and toes. She moaned and leaned back, and I stood up, literally.

“I slipped her heel back on and she lifted her leg slowly and put her foot on the bed, keeping her knee bent. I started kissing her right leg at the ankle and moved my way up her leg. I stood up to kiss her on the mouth but I wouldn’t let her grab me. I moved over her left leg and repeated the kissing as I had done on the right. She could not keep her leg still. Every time she moaned and moved, I would stoke her and kiss her. She could not mover her right legs, so I used that to force her to move in different ways than she might otherwise. When I stood up from removing the panties from the bedpost and stood up, she was on me like a vacuum. We licked each other until she collapsed.”

“As I often do I turned up at my boyfriend’s office dressed rather provocatively with the intent of seducing him. My outfit was my favourite carnation pink suspender belt, matching silk knickers, push up bra, shortish skirt and black silk seam stockings. My hair was tied back and I wore a pretty silk flowered scarf.

“After flashing my stocking tops and rubbing up against Steve the usual happened. In minutes I was panting madly and really aroused.

“But then something happened. Steve decided to tie me up! He tied my wrists with some rope, eased my stockinged legs apart and tied each ankle to each desk leg. But far from being shocked I found myself becoming really aroused.”

“I love to be stripped down to my bra, knickers, stockings and suspender-belt and tied up before being made love to. This is quite odd, as I have no real inclination toward ‘bondage’ as such, only finding it arousing when sussies are worn! I remember, many years ago, when I was about fifteen or so, seeing a film or television programme (I have no idea what it was called). In one scene two nurses had had their uniforms stolen and were tied up, still wearing their full underwear, including stockings and suspenders. For some reason I still cannot explain, it made me hot and dizzy with arousal.”

First time in stockings

Queen_size_RHT_stockings_LA lady friend and I were discussing stockings (what else?) recently and she said that she began wearing them only because her boyfriend at the time suggested it. She and the boyfriend parted years ago but she says she wears stockings about three times a week and almost always on dates.

It got me to wondering about the women reading and posting here. Dear ladies; did you begin wearing stockings because someone else suggested it or did you develop an interest yourself and then begin wearing them quite independently from anyone’s suggestion? Thank you in advance for your responses.

– I started wearing stockings when I was about16/17. Tights kept giving me thrush and I have not worn them since. I only ever wear stockings/hold-ups and it has been that way for 20 years now!

– I began wearing stockings after seeing the idea in a book that “stockings and a garterbelt are always more sexy than pantyhose”. At first I totally rejected the idea and put the book away. But in October of 2000, I began looking for ways to improve my marriage to my husband to kind of liven things up in the sex department. So I started very hesitantly at first wearing stockings with lycra in them and made the usual mistakes of trying to get what the stores offered. In the USA good quality stockings are almost impossible to get in the shopping malls.

Through this forum I discovered all I needed to know about wearing stockings, including which ones were best for me, and which manufacturer to get them from, plus where to get the best garter belts and what type were the most comfortable for me. So now I wear them mostly for myself, but also I wear them for my husband.

– I wore them as a young girl in high school but then pantyhose became the rage. I didn’t wear them again until I met my husband. While we were dating he constantly bought me clothes. He likes to dress me as though I were his own personal doll. At first I felt awkward but I also enjoyed the compliments the clothes he bought for me were attracting. Also, he was (and is) very generous and has excellent taste. So, I ended up with a wardrobe I never would have purchased for myself.

He got me back into stockings. He hates women wearing pantyhose and I think if the inventor of them isn’t already dead he would surely hunt him down. At first I wore them only because he wanted me to and he bought tons and tons of them. Even if I wanted to wear pantyhose I’d be hard pressed to find a single pair in any of our three residences.

Now I wear stockings because I genuinely like them and the effect they have on him and every other man I know. I am completely faithful to my husband but I love to tease. Sometimes my teasing distresses my husband but I tell him it’s his fault. If I were in pantyhose no one would be looking.

– Mary Quant invented pantyhose – an English clothing designer in the sixties.

– I had always thought of stockings and garterbelts, as well as girdles and corsets as part of the wonderful world of femininity. Although I never wore them as a girl or young woman, I always kept the idea of them in the back of my mind.

Not long after I met my now-husband, we went on an expedition through every major department store in Boston. Every lingerie sales person looked at me as if I had three heads! They couldn’t believe I was asking for stockings, let alone silk stockings! My boyfriend encouraged me to continue my quest – not to satisfy a need on his part, but rather because he somehow knew I would be happier in them.

To make a long story short, I finally got fed up with pantyhose, and decided to make the change. Thanks to some intrepid web surfing, I discovered this site which helped me to make the permanent shift to stockings. I wear them almost every day, much to the delight of my husband. They have given me a level of confidence and pride in my appearance than I didn’t have before. And a little harmless stocking flirting is a great side benefit!

Advice on washing stockings

Stockings in LondonI have an interesting arrangement with my girlfriend. She has agreed to wear stockings (sometimes) if I wash them for her. I bought a hosiery washing bag from a lingerie shop, but wasn’t sure if it’s okay to wash them in the washing machine or if I should do it by hand. Any advice? And can I dry them in a dryer or do they need to be hung up to dry?

Any assistance is really appreciated… I have quite a few pairs of stockings and hold-ups to wash for her. Also for the hold-ups (that have the rubbery band on the inside), are they okay to wash in the washing machine or is it better for hand-washing? And how would I use the hosiery washing bag, do I just put the stockings inside and then throw the whole thing into the washing machine? Do I have to wash these in the machine by themselves or do I just wash them with other clothes (is there a specific cycle to use)?

  • I’d say wash them by hand, as they are far too delicate to put in the washing machine even in a lingerie bag. I use Delicare hand wash on my stockings and I wear FF’s. I also use it on my underwire bras and garter belt. Get a little hanging drying rack with little clips on it if you can find one, they are terrific for drying stockings. I hope this helps.
  • The only hosiery which is washing machine friendly is 70 denier tights. Hopefully you won’t encounter any of those.
  • I always wash my stockings and hold-ups by hand in mild detergent. It is very important not to use conditioner on the hold-ups as it will harm the bands. Just hang them by the toes on the washing line to dry.

How to stop garter belts falling down

Garter BeltI read the article on suspender/garter belts and how to avoid stockings from coming down during the day. However simply by wearing longer stockings does not necessarily cure this problem. I have a narrow elastic belt with 4 garters that clip at the back (and I clip them VERY tightly) . It is the belt itself that works itself down during the course of the day. Even if my stockings reach the top of the thighs, they will still be a couple of inches lower later in the day. Any other solutions?

– Well, it could be that you have the tension pulled so tightly on the garters as to begin the process of having the belt begin to pull. I have learned that garters don’t need to be pulled all that tight, in order for the stockings to stay up. This is opposed to an open bottom girdle, which needs the tension to keep the girdle from creeping up…

I also found that when I was wearing one of those flimsy lacy garterbelts the pull of the stockings was too much for them. Since I have switched to a pull-on style belt made of Lycra and cotton, no more problem.

And one mention about the stockings themselves: I wear the old-style RHTs with virtually no give. They still tend to ride down a little bit over the course of the day. When I am visiting the rest room I give them a little smoothing to pull and excess which may have made it’s way down to my shoe. (This is one reason why I undo my stockings when I am answering the call. Perfect time to take care of this! )

– The top of the belt i.e. the body, should be non-stretch and preferably more cotton then synthetics. It should be sitting comfortably over the hip and once in place, there should be no real need to adjust it. The straps have to be long enough to reach to wherever you find it comfortable to attach the stockings.

I normally take a little extra care when putting on the stockings in order to ensure that everything lines up, the attachments feel correct and that nothing moves or pulls around.

Remember it is the straps that hold the stockings in position, and they do not necessarily have to apply huge amounts of upward pull.

If this happens then it means that the stockings are too short, and more then likely will be uncomfortable and will require constant tugging and pulling.

– You have too much tension on the suspenders. There should be some slack so they keep up when you stand and the stockings then won’t pull the belt down when you bend or sit down. Even if you have a flimsy narrow elastic belt, this should work. If you are at work, the next time you are on the toilet, take time to adjust the suspenders while you are sitting – you will be able to feel the tension at the back. Make sure you wear the belt above your waist. Having said that, stockings WILL come down somewhat during the day so adjust them in private moments.

– The best solution is a wide, pull on garterbelt with the rear garters well to the back.

They are very comfortable, stay in place, and garter the stockings tautly. Unlike some other responses, I prefer good tension on my garters. I love the gentle leg massage that comes with every step when the stockings are fastened tautly.

– I have worn open bottomed girdles on and off for many years. They always stay up and certainly don’t work their way down plus they do a wonderful job of shaping. If you haven’t had experience of them before, here are some things to look out for which may cause you problems:

  1. If your skirt is tight-ish, open bottomed girdles produce an unsightly girdle line. Always wear loose skirts.
  2. The only way to go to the bathroom is to roll the girdle down. If you are even slightly sweaty, this is quite difficult. Many women decide not to wear underwear for this reason.
  3. All girdles make you very hot especially when the weather is warm. In the summer I really only wear them to formal occasions indoors where there is air conditioning.

Trousers: is the medium the message?

Last week I sat in on some presentations made by individuals and groups requesting funding. One of the groups was advocating gay-oriented medical issues. The presenters were gay women.

I was most anxious to see how they would be attired. It has been my experience that presenters usually try to look their best and, when appropriate, attempt to create a memorable experience by dressing in some special manner if it is related to their group’s theme. For example, several years ago we had a Native American group making presentations and two of the presenters, a male and a female, wore authentic Native American tribal clothing.

One Thursday the lesbians wore trousers. One wore a necktie. None wore skirts. Most had no make-up and to this day a small debate rages amongst my staff as to whether one of the group was male or female. She/he (?) never spoke. If they were trying to create a memorable experience they succeeded. I will probably never forget this meeting. But, I’m going to have to listen to the audio tape sometime this weekend to find out what they were saying. I was completely distracted by what I and some others thought was a conscious attempt to look as masculine as possible.

We all acknowledge the effect a woman wearing stockings can have on a man. Many of us would say that the effect is intentional at least on some level. But what is a woman saying to us (intentionally or unintentionally) when she chooses to wear trousers? What message do you get if you are a man and what message do you think you are sending if you are a woman in trousers?

I’d be interested in your thoughts.

– This is a valid question and I would be interested to know what the ladies think. I guess it’s all a question of degrees. If a woman wears trousers all the time I pick up a message that she really isn’t much interested in expressing her femininity (which sort of makes sense if you are a dyke I suppose). For many women, skirts are worn more frequently and trousers provide a bit of variety and I guess we have to respect that. But even in 2001 there are a few women out there who never wear trousers to work and in my book they command enormous respect. Indeed only recently I was talking to a young medical student who told me that she always wore skirts in a professional environment as she associated trousers with casual wear. Hearing these words uttered by a stunning 20 something lady was enough to restore my tarnished faith in womankind!

– You’ve brought up two separate questions here, and to my way of thinking, they are not especially connected.

Firstly, when speaking of lesbian women and their choice of dress, conventional modes of thinking do not apply. Whether due to choice or actual genetics (both theories abound) I don’t think lesbian women even consider skirts and dresses part of their lives. At least I have found that among the ones I have known. Even the most feminine of lesbian women are almost entirely in pants or shorts. Don’t really know why – I could ask if you’re interested.

As for the second part of this, I don’t think women give any thought to these issues when they are dressing. Those sorts of questions are not asked anymore.

woman in trousersThis is probably due on some level to the throwing out of traditional clothing rules 30 years ago. The codes of dress got thrown out with the codes of morality, whether for good or ill. You can’t discount that.

But in all fairness, we ladies shouldn’t be the only ones to take a little more pride in our appearance. We like looking at a well-dressed gentleman, you know. A good looking guy in a perfectly tailored suit sends me over the moon!

As for the message a woman in trousers sends, there are two ways to approach this. Firstly, I think women have been told that in the work place trousers are the way to go – they help to place everyone on a level playing field, and keep the focus where it belongs – on business and not on a woman’s legs.

I can see some validity to that – no one wants to be ogled whilst giving an important presentation. You want to believe that what is being presented in the meeting is interesting enough to keep one’s mind from wandering.

Secondly, we all learn by example. Little girls don’t wear dresses anymore because they don’t see their mommies in dresses. Only on special occasions, and then that’s it. It’s not the norm for women to have dresses and suits with matching shoes and belts and handbags like they used to.

In addition, day care providers probably don’t want to spend the time dealing with frilly dresses on girls when play pants and a shirt will suffice. And working mothers don’t want to take the time to dress their little girls nicely, and send them off to school looking like girls.

I wore dresses almost every day when I was a girl – I liked wearing dresses. It didn’t stop me from doing what I wanted – I climbed the monkey bars and hung upside down (to the chagrin of my teachers) played kickball and tag. I wouldn’t be surprised that somewhere, in our communist public school system, parents have been told not to dress their little girls in dresses since it provokes little boys into harassing them. Instead of just smacking the little brat upside the head, girls are made to feel that they need to cover themselves up to prevent harassment.

– I found your follow-up post on the mentality of trouser wearing to be very revealing and it sort of confirms my worst fears on the subject. In truth I don’t think that things are quite as bad here in the UK at present, as our political correctness isn’t quite so pernicious just yet, but where the US goes everyone else inevitably follows so we are definitely heading the same way. Given what you said, do you find that you are wearing trousers more often in the office these days?

As regards gents’ apparel I agree that nothing compares to a suit. I have now experienced both dress up and dress down cultures and on balance prefer the former.

– I really don’t have a problem with the trouser look. Many of the most feminine women I’ve known have worn trousers as part of their wardrobes. Always, of course, they wore nylon hosiery underneath. Which makes ALL the difference. I disdain the “trouser and sock” look (termed “trouser socks” by the benighted hosiery industry). What I absolutely can’t stand is bare legs – summer, fall, winter or spring! 90 per cent of women don’t have the skin tone/texture to display their legs bare. Yet for some reason “au courant” fashion mavens can’t seem to get it through their thick skulls this is an obvious fashion faux pas.

– I do think you’re right in that when the US begins a trend (for better or worse) the rest of the world follows. I also think that the “I will wear what I choose, when I choose” mindset has gone too far. I have a friend whose husband refuses to wear anything other than jeans and a casual sort of shirt, even to a place where one would automatically think of at least dress khakis and a dress shirt. His attitude is I wear what I wear and it shouldn’t matter to anyone else. This I think would even include church, if he were a churchgoer. (He was part of the hippie counterculture, and has never really grown out of it.)

To me, that shows a lack of respect for others; that satisfying yourself is more important than putting yourself out for others. Unfortunately, I see that as an overwhelming attitude for many these days…

Presently my office consists of about six women, and we all wear what we like. I used to wear jeans or trousers every day, but frankly disliked feeling less than properly dressed for work. Since it’s a consultancy, we rarely have clients in.

The reason I switched to trousers was because I hated wearing pantyhose. Once I began to explore the option of stockings, and then foundation garments, I have gone back to wearing dresses and skirts every day. Even when I’m home I change into a dress to cook dinner, and do the laundry, etc. Now mind you, it’s a casual dress and I have on flip flops or other sandals with it. No stockings, however.

I did have put on a pair of jeans the other week when my office was in the midst of packing for a move, and hated every minute of it! They were tight and constricting, and just not comfortable. I would have traded them for a nice skirt and girdle in a heartbeat!

I have decided that I like being in a dress much more than anything else. It looks nice, it’s cool on a hot summer day, and if I need to run to the store, I can pull on stockings and a girdle in a hurry!

– I have to agree with you about so many in today’s society when it comes to dress. There is little sense of decorum and respect for other people or institutions. Example: I stayed at an upscale hotel and came down to breakfast in a sports jacket thinking I would be out of place otherwise. Other than the waiters in white shirts and bow ties I was pretty much the most dressed-up person. My fellow diners were in sweats or jeans – or generally dishevelled – and one guy lowered his pot belly over the buffet table in his black T-shirt with the words ‘No Fear’ or something grosser written on it…

That evening my date and I attended a musical. There were about 300 in attendance. When the lights came up we looked around and commented, “you know we’re the most dressed-up people here. ” I was wearing a jacket and dress slacks and dressy shirt buttoned at the neck without a tie. She was wearing a dressy turtleneck and long black skirt. Our fellow theatregoers? There didn’t even seem any attempt to “dress casual”. Instead it was like they were dressed for their rec room but wandered downtown. “Please yourself and only yourself” seemed to be their thinking. My date, as an astute observer, described this as society’s growing “self-indulgence” and to heck about what others think.