bi-sexual

Stockings: lesbian or bi?

Garter Belt and tarten skirtI was searching the AOL member directory this weekend. I chose the words “garter belt” and “female“. For tthose not familiar with AOL, members create a profile that includes the usual things; name, location, marital status, hobbies etc…

Almost 50% of the women who said they wore a garter belt and stockings were either lesbian or bi-sexual. I thought this was rather odd, so I sent an e-mail to one of the ladies who gave that impression, asking her if wearing a garter belt and stockings had become a sign of lesbianism. Her response sent chills running down my back!

She stated that indeed, at least in the US that wearing stockings has become somewhat of a “calling card” for other lesbians! She said that when she is out at a bar or a club, she looks for women in stockings, and considers any that she finds potential “dates”. So at last my question to the group:

Has anyone else encountered this, and ladies, has a lesbian or bisexual lady ever hit on you because you were wearing stockings? I sincerely hope this is not the case. If this is indeed true and the mainstream women ever hear about this, it could deal a serious blow to our cause, as straight ladies would never wear a garter belt and stockings for fear of being labelled a lesbian or bisexual! Not that being one is bad, that is an individual choice, however I would prefer straight ladies continue to wear stockings and not feel they are being stereotyped!

– That’s a new one on me. I’ve never heard of or thought of that one. Of course there’s a lot of stuff people put on the Internet that is just a figment of their imagination.

– I have no idea if stockings are the current uniform du jour in the lesbian/bi community but God bless them if it is. I rather think your leg was being pulled (and not in a nice way) by someone who was either relating a local custom in her particular gay community or was having a bit of fun with the “straight guy”.

It was my pleasure to know a femme lesbian some years ago who was the epitome of femininity. She did occasionally wear stockings but her dates, mostly butch-type lesbians, certainly did not act or look feminine at all. Picture the group Village People.

By the way did you know that if you wear anything green on Thursday, it is a signal to all gay men that you are available? LOL.

– I agree that any woman (regardless of sexual orientation) in stockings is a great thing. However I would like to think it was because of a taste for fashion and not a symbol of their sexual preference. I am going to e-mail a few more of these women and ask them the same question. You may be right about my leg being pulled, but I’m going to ask for some additional thoughts.

– I almost laughed aloud at reading this – maybe this is a good thing! Don’t you all know that when something is adopted by the gay and lesbian communities, it is a sure sign that it’ll be in the mainstream soon? Keep an eye out! When retailers see money to be made, rest assured the rest of the world will follow!

Perhaps someone could ask our resident lesbians in the chatroom. They also claim to be from New York ,the launching point of many trends. In my own experience, I have never been hit on by a woman while wearing stockings. Actually, I have only seen stockings here in Kansas two other times on ladies, unfortunately. Pantyhose is even rare here.

What Does It Mean To Be Bisexual?

Bisexuality!!! Is it just a passing phase or bisexuals really get attracted to people of both the sexes throughout their lives? Getting curious? …Want to know the actual meaning of bisexual?

The term bisexual was first used in the perspective of sexual orientation in 1914. Most of the bisexuals crave for the members of both sexes and they even get into romantic liaison and create emotional connection with them. The very idea of getting attracted to either a man or woman can make them feel incomplete. Just like homosexuality and heterosexuality, bisexuality is a natural form of sexual expression. There’s a common belief that bisexuals always seek no-strings-attached physical relationships. But, it’s not true. Emotional involvement is the thing that most of them look for. It’s not that people turn bisexuals when they fail to find a suitable partner from the opposite sex. The fact lies here that bisexual traits are innate in human beings. They are not confused creatures, rather they are well aware of their sexuality. As both men and women turn them on, the chance of finding a dream date or getting a life partner doubles up in case of a bisexual. But that certainly does not make the bisexuals promiscuous in nature. The level of promiscuity in an individual has nothing to do with his/her sexuality. It, irrespective of sexual preference, varies from person to person.

There’s nothing wrong in you if you are capable of forming sexual bond with members of both the male and female species. The height of attraction may differ, but the comfort level is always there. To a bisexual person, the importance of a person (from either gender) is much more than the lust for a particular sexual organ. Having a penchant for both guys and girls is no crime. Just experience the fun of going both the ways. It’s the matter of how you feel from inside and whether you fantasize both males and females. How many times you engage in sexual activities with whom doesn’t matter much. On the other hand, it’s again true that only fantasizing people from both genders doesn’t make you bisexual. Even if you carry out your fantasies in real, it’s totally up to you what are you labeling yourself as.

Watching a film and getting attracted to both its hero and heroine at the same time is not at all uncommon. After getting over with the confusion, once you be at ease with yourself, your dull and boring life can definitely become exciting. Once you start liking yourself as you are, others will surely follow. Meeting bisexual people has become so easy nowadays. You can find several bisexual or bi-inclusive groups at your locality. Here, you get the chance of meeting like-minded people with whom you can set up a dream date or even settle down in near future. The helplines and bisexual resource centers can also be of great assistance. One cannot possibly change his/her sexual orientation, so it’s better to accept a person as he/she is. Bisexual people cannot be stereotyped; they are as diverse as heterosexuals and homosexuals. Some of them may opt for lifelong relationships while others may prefer one-night escapades.

Being bisexual cannot debar oneself from dreaming of a family of his/her own. Having children via adoption, surrogacy measures or artificial insemination is quite common these days. With the development of one’s sexual identity, the degree of attraction that a bisexual person feels towards either of the sexes may vary. Some bisexual people are not comfortable with the term. This situation has given way to various other related terms like ‘bi-curious’, ‘not straight’, ‘omnisexual’ and ‘pansexual’ etc. But, researchers and psychologists always advise to come out with one’s true sexual identity as it has been proved time and again that the ‘coming out’ process often paves the way for a calmer and happier life.

As per researches, sexuality is largely determined at the time of birth. As a southpaw picks things up with his left hand instinctively, the passionate yearnings that a bisexual feel for both sexes come spontaneously. Neither bisexuality can be forced upon anybody, nor psychotherapy or other interventions can change sexual orientation of a person. It’s fine to get drawn towards members of both the sexes. Some bisexuals (gays, lesbians as well) prefer to call themselves ‘queer’. The term, though once used as an insulting label, is hailed with respect nowadays. Some bisexual people take long time to decipher their true sexual callings while others are quite sure of their inclinations well before adolescence. With maturity, they become capable of nurturing a satisfying and committed relationship with a person from either sex. Just listen to your heart and you will come to know about your exact nature, you don’t have to rush into any conclusion.

All types of sexual preferences, including bisexuality, are absolutely normal. Bisexuality is neither a matter of choice that can be altered, nor a disease, which can be cured. And whatever you pretend to be, you will always remain as you are. Being bisexual doesn’t make a person obsessed with sex. Persons from both the sexes may sweep him off his feet, but not each and every men and women. Just like straight people, bisexual persons select their partners on the basis of looks, intelligence, personality etc. Bisexuals are free to have male and female partners simultaneously, but they are not bound to get into multiple relationships at the same time. Most bisexual persons just wait for the right person to fall in love and the gender often becomes irrelevant in the process. Being a bisexual, you are free to live your sexual life in your own terms, provided that it doesn’t hamper the lives of others. — Jason Rase provides free gay sex chat services and amateur group sex dating online. Source: http://www.articletrader.com