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End of a love affair?

Bunch of stockings“This is just the thing I’ve been thinking about lately & was considering posting about it. Why were women once incredibly in love with nylons (that famous date is May 15, 1940 when women mobbed stores when nylon was first introduced), and now detest, are ambivalent about, or only mildly interested in, nylon hosiery (I include pantyhose)?

“A related question: how could stockings – a revolutionary garment brought about by modern chemical technology – have fallen into disregard, nay oblivion – so quickly (at best after 30 years)? These are intriguing questions.

“Perhaps feminism must be held to blame. As Susan Brownmiller says in Femininity (1984, Fawcett/Ballantine Books – perhaps the definitive anti-feminine, feminist tract): ‘the subtle tyranny of the nylon stocking over the minds and actions of women for the next twenty years – until it was partially overthrown by the anti-bourgeois fashion revolution of the Sixties – should not be forgotten.’

“By the late ’80s most women still wore some nylon on their legs. Come the ’90s, and nylon-wearers have become the minority. That’s probably because even women who consider themselves ‘feminine’ have adopted more casual attire.

“The other contradiction I notice about women – and not even particularly ‘feminine’ ones – is the attention to otherwise feminine ‘looks’ – ie grooming and make-up. It’s hard to come across any woman these days who doesn’t paint her nails. Most wear lipstick. Most spend a lot of attention on their hair and skin. It’s in the realm of clothing that attitudes, for some reason, have changed. This is an ongoing discussion… It’s as if there is some kind of sinister plot to put women off wearing nylons. It’s leading to nylon warfare!

“I think what I can deduce from this in a nutshell, is that women always appear to be old enough to decide whether they like nylons or not (possibly influenced) but for a man it is as if nature intended it to be. I certainly didn’t choose to like women in nylons, but I do and I’m proud to admit it, after all it’s something that was out of my control! I never knew the subject of nylon stockings was so complex, it’s like rocket science!”

“Down here where I live in Kent, I have done studies on particular women on a regular basis (excluding my girlfriend) to see how often they wore a skirt and hosiery. The girls that I have studied, at work, in local shops, in pubs etc, have continually worn trousers. This has been over a period of almost eighteen months. Femininity I am afraid to say is rapidly diminishing and female pride in dress sense has almost gone entirely.”

“Yes, we can all agree that there are choices out there – and that we as women should exercise that choice. However, I truly believe that in some cases the trendsetters are putting their ideas out there, and so overpowering any other competition as to make it non-existent. When was the last time anyone walked into a store and found the choices of skirts, blouses and nice dresses to be anywhere as large as the trouser/ jacket sections? I have to hunt until I’m blue in the face to find pretty clothing! All the stuff that is out there makes me think of Communist re-education camps! And as for choices in hosiery – well, here you have to wade through the knee-deep piles (pardon the pun) of opaques and other garbage just to find decent fleshtone nylons!

“And remember who it is that’s running the American Fashion industry right now. All those women who ran around burning their bras thirty years ago! Did you ever see one feminine piece of clothing turned out by Donna Karan? And forget about our pal Calvin – he’s been designing for skinny little boys for thirty years!

“Until we see a new crop of designers come in with the intelligence of Christian Dior or the style of Coco Chanel, we ain’t gonna see anything new.”

“On recent visits to the supermarket, it has been my observation whilst standing in the queue waiting to pay and looking at people’s shopping (and be honest, we all do!) that women are not buying stockings. Even when you look at the hosiery sections, tights are more widely displayed than stockings, and when you go into a newsagent’s shop stockings are not to be seen on display for sale – just tights and pop socks.

“Sadly, although this web site is doing it’s utmost best to promote stockings, I feel that overall the tights revolution has got a ‘foothold’! Even if a woman is not wearing tights, then she is closeted in trousers.”

“In taking a purely pragmatic view of things you’re probably right but you shouldn’t be so defeatist. After all, we on this forum aren’t going to change the world overnight. It is a long haul job and results will be hard to come by but you must keep the faith and believe that stockings will persist and if enough people keep spreading the word then it will get better.

“There isn’t enough publicity about at the moment to make a real difference and of course the manufacturers have an interest in keeping it that way. Just remember, seeing the next woman in stockings will be all the more sweeter just because they’re quite rare.”

Nylon: the last taboo

Stockings... whore?“I just noticed a posting on the Vogue web site fashion forum. A woman didn’t want to do ‘the whole nylon thing’ when dressing-up. Because, get this, ‘some people may think that you’re a prostitute if you wear nylons.’ So that, folks, in the year 2001, is the symbolic state to which stocking-wearing has become.

“Reading the postings here over the past few months I have definitely noticed a transatlantic divide on the stocking issue. In the UK stockings are seldom worn because of the general and lamentable decline in dress standards and trend towards shabby ‘casual’ attire (which applies as much to men as it does to women).

“There does not seem, however, to be much actual disapproval of stockings and suspenders per se. From the postings of our North American correspondents (and especially those from the US) it would appear that there exists quite a measure of outright hostility toward both stockings and the women who wear them. It seems very odd. Can anyone enlighten the board as to just why and when this hostility developed?”

Nylons are, these days, associated by the Western mind with sex and prostitution. This is a stereotyped image, which results largely from about 70 years of glamour photos and erotic films. It is very interesting to note that the use of the dildo by lesbians – which was a common feature of erotic imagery but was in fact far removed from the truth – has in the last decade been adopted by the lesbian ‘community’. How extraordinary that pornographic images, created by straight men for the enjoyment of straight men, have so influenced the sexual behaviour of those women who – superficially – reject men (whilst they simultaneously admire women who masquerade as men!). Basically, human behaviour is influenced/determined by fashion. The baby boomers, bra burners and the rest of ’em think they’re thinking for themselves – in reality, they are just fellow passengers in a never-ending fashion parade. Tell the feminists that nylons are a form of ‘female empowerment’ – and they’ll wear ’em!

“Could some of this be latent emotions placed upon young ladies today by their bra-burning, hairy legged mamas? The baby-boomers’ children are in high school and college now, and are probably poisoned with their wacky ideas. I never understood the boomers’ whole value system – don’t want the children to have a basic moral upbringing, no manners, any sense of right and wrong, etc. because that’s all false; people should just suck it up and take you at your lumpiest – but they’re afraid to admit that they smoked a little weed in college and slept around – for fear that they’ll try it too.

“Here’s my other theorem: part of it comes from pantyhose being made now with more Lycra and spandex in them than ever before, which when worn all day, seems to hold the heat and perspiration close to the body. This is especially true in the summer around the waist area.

“As for being thought of as a prostitute for wearing nylons -who gives a damn? Are we all a nation of lemmings?”

“You are not alone in your wonderment of the people in this country: Grunge clothes are an expression of individuality, but a lady who chooses to wear glamorous lingerie must be a slut. Girdles are frowned on but pantyhose manufacturers are doing everything but dipping women in a vat of Lycra up to their waist to ensure that waist to toe compression.

“Pantyhose did NOT replace stockings because there was anything wrong with stockings – they were billed as being more convenient and more suitable for shorter skirts.

“Even on this forum, some posters want to set moral standards on what age is ‘proper’ for a young lady to wear stockings. There is an impression that it is not possible for a lady to want to wear stockings for any reason OTHER than sex and the gratification of their mates.

“The hostile people one correspondent encountered in the health club last month would not have given her a second thought if she had purple hair and a chain connecting her nose to her nipple! But because she was wearing NORMAL lingerie from the period prior to pantyhose she was harassed.

“Woman need to concede that there are a lot of hypocrites out there that talk out both sides of their mouth and brains. I only wonder what new diseases and maladies will plague woman as, as you pointed out, pantyhose gets more and more confining and restricting. Maybe I need to complete my pre-med studies – might be a run on doctors.”

Is sex better when wearing stockings?

art-lingerie_Black_Lingerie_Black_Stockings_brunette_Malena_Morgan_meaty_met-nude_solo_stairs_stockings_10Question for all you ladies out there! Do you agree that you that you get better sex when wearing stockings? In my humble opinion the answer is, most definitely yes! For one I always prefer not to remove my underwear for sex as I believe that the resulting effect is almost always better. Once you let your encounter know that you are wearing stockings – maybe by flashing a stocking top or deliberately allowing them to feel your suspenders through your skirt; the resulting sex is almost always great. Apart from the occasional ‘ quick to misfire’! But even when this happens it’s usually a sure sign that it is still the best way to turn a partner on!

What do you think?

By the way, and before you all ask, I’m bisexual and have been since I was 16 and have plenty experience in the power of stockings and suspenders over both sexes! If you’re female and that way inclined, they do it for you as well!

– Even though I’m male and straight I’m going to reply. I couldn’t agree with you more regarding stockings in bed. Mmmmwwwwaaaah

– Have to completely agree with you, a flash of stocking top or the knowledge you are wearing stockings always makes it good. I’m bisexual from the west coast of Scotland and always like my partner and myself to wear stockings during sex, its always good.

– Do any of you women who like to wear stockings during sex, also like to sleep in them for the rest of the night once you’re done?

– I’m just beginning to get my husband to allow me to wear stockings during sex but the first time I did have sex with my stockings on, my husband seemed to love it and I found rubbing my garters against his private parts really seemed to turn him on judging by his reaction and mine.

– Having sex with a lady wearing her stockings is mind boggling. Great. I know, been there, done that! Sliding down those upturned silky legs is a sensation like nothing else in this world. What great memories all of that great sex was. This was before marriage. Now, my wife has to pull her pantyhose off. She can not seem to get the message. No more damned panty hose. Those suspender-held real silk stockings were the greatest. Gone – but not forgotten. Woe is me!

– My girlfriend is comfortable having sex with her stockings on, but always takes them off before falling asleep. When we are doing it, she usually keeps her high-heels on too, and she often slides the shaft of my penis between her stockinged thighs. I usually come instantly. Who wouldn’t?

– I virtually do not have sex with my woman if she fails to don a sheer, sleek, smooth, taut, glistening, sexy, accentuating, sensual and inviting pair of gartered nylon stockings… and I ask that she not remove them before, during or after we engage. Indeed, my woman may wear gartered nylon stockings all of the time. She need not trouble herself with ever removing them. We all know that they must be removed at some time but there certainly is no hurry!

What more can I say?

Male sexual disorders – causes and oral therapies

Two types of erectile dysfunction are distinguished. Rare as it is, primary erectile dysfunction means that a male has never had an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse. Secondary ED, a loss of erectile ability after a normal function, normally develops slowly unless resulted from an injury or sudden medical condition. People once believed that impotence was usually triggered by psychological problems. But nowadays we are aware that conditions such as strain, depression and fear of sexual failure are at the root of only 10% – 20% of ED. It is most often caused by physical factors, for instance vascular disorders, nerve damage, penile abnormalities. Erectile dysfunction can also be an adverse reaction to certain prescriptions and drugs obtained without a prescription.
However, whatever the causes are, it is common for males who experience impotence to have feelings of guilt, anxiety and low self-esteem.There are only 3 oral drugs sanctioned by the FDA to treat erectile dysfunction: Cialis, Levitra, and Viagra. The drugs relax the walls of the penis allowing more blood to flow to the organ, so that when a man is sexually aroused, he can attain an erection.

The drugs work in a similar way. There are insignificant differences in how long and how promptly the drug takes effect. Levitra works a little longer than Viagra. They both take effect in about thirty minutes. With Levitra, the effects last for about 5 hours. With Viagra, the effects last about 4 hours. Cialis works a little quicker (within about 15 minutes), and the effects last a lot longer – up to 36 hours in some cases.
Though each drug has proven effective, none is cure-all. Besides, they can result in health problems when taken with other medicines, especially with nitrate or nitroglycerin cardiac medications, and trigger more general side effects, such as splitting headaches and – in the case of Viagra – visual changes.
Alongside oral therapies, there are other treatment methods, such as mechanical therapies and surgery for severe cases of ED. The type of treatment, consequently, is dependent on the severity of ED.

How To Easily Reach The G-Spot ?

The G-spot, or Grafenberg spot, is certainly the most popular topic, with the penis size, on websites discussing sex issues, male and female health. This spot was named after Ernst Granfeberg, the famous German gynecologist who first described it in 1950, in his paper The Role of Urethra in Female Orgasm. Grafenberg was a German born doctor (Adelebsen 1881 – New York 1957), of Jewish confession. Arrested by the Nazis in 1937, he escaped in 1940 with the help of friends of the International Society of Sexology, and emigrated to California.

Before trying to reach this spot, we must know where it is located. The g-spot is something like a female prostate located between the pubic bone and the cervix on the top side of vagina. The g-spot is a part of the urethral sponge, a tissue playing a great role during arousal : if correctly stimulated, this area can be very pleasurable, and lead to orgasm during sexual intercourse. Note that other women could also feel the urge to urinate when this spot is stimulated.

Indeed, this urethral tissue or sponge is like a cushion against the pubic bone and the vagina wall, surrounding the urethra. Mainly made of erectile tissue, filled with blood during arousal, it has a compressing effect on the urethra, preventing urination during sex. This tissue also contains the Skene’s glands, able to produce the famous female ejaculation (usually a fluid of clear color) men are so curious about. Other scientists think the g-spot is not really a physical spot, but more probably the clitoris deepest nerves passing through the urethral tissue and connecting with the spinal column.

An important point is that the fluid produced by the Skene’s glands during orgasm passes through urethra (as urine does) but must not be considered as urine or as an effect of urinary incontinence. This clear colored fluid is similar to what is produced by the prostate and that is why we can speak about female ejaculation.

The structure of this important tissue also varies during time and after the age of 30, occurring changes make the g-spot easier to reach. This is why women after 30 will be more than probably experiencing the best of their sexual life and pleasures.

But how can men reach this so mysterious spot ? In fact, 3 methods can be applied in order to reach this spot. These methods can be found in sex advices guides on the web.
1.For men having an upward curved penis, the missionary position is the best, because that kind of penis will exert greater pressure on the front wall of the vagina.
2.For men having a downward curved penis, or an uncurved penis, doggy style position is probably more suitable because of the pressure exerted against the front wall by the downward curved penis.
3.With the fingers or the tongue : you must push down on the clitoris and arce the tongue or fingers upwards. Note that fingers or tongue must be at least 1 – 3 inches inside the vagina…since the exact distance greatly varies from a person to another… Good luck.

Science has now answered lots of questions concerning this mysterious female area, but female orgasm is and remains a complex phenomenon wherein g-spot plays an important role.

  — Harry Lloyd writes articles for Top Sex Guides , a site providing male sexuality advices.

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What Does It Mean To Be Bisexual?

Bisexuality!!! Is it just a passing phase or bisexuals really get attracted to people of both the sexes throughout their lives? Getting curious? …Want to know the actual meaning of bisexual?

The term bisexual was first used in the perspective of sexual orientation in 1914. Most of the bisexuals crave for the members of both sexes and they even get into romantic liaison and create emotional connection with them. The very idea of getting attracted to either a man or woman can make them feel incomplete. Just like homosexuality and heterosexuality, bisexuality is a natural form of sexual expression. There’s a common belief that bisexuals always seek no-strings-attached physical relationships. But, it’s not true. Emotional involvement is the thing that most of them look for. It’s not that people turn bisexuals when they fail to find a suitable partner from the opposite sex. The fact lies here that bisexual traits are innate in human beings. They are not confused creatures, rather they are well aware of their sexuality. As both men and women turn them on, the chance of finding a dream date or getting a life partner doubles up in case of a bisexual. But that certainly does not make the bisexuals promiscuous in nature. The level of promiscuity in an individual has nothing to do with his/her sexuality. It, irrespective of sexual preference, varies from person to person.

There’s nothing wrong in you if you are capable of forming sexual bond with members of both the male and female species. The height of attraction may differ, but the comfort level is always there. To a bisexual person, the importance of a person (from either gender) is much more than the lust for a particular sexual organ. Having a penchant for both guys and girls is no crime. Just experience the fun of going both the ways. It’s the matter of how you feel from inside and whether you fantasize both males and females. How many times you engage in sexual activities with whom doesn’t matter much. On the other hand, it’s again true that only fantasizing people from both genders doesn’t make you bisexual. Even if you carry out your fantasies in real, it’s totally up to you what are you labeling yourself as.

Watching a film and getting attracted to both its hero and heroine at the same time is not at all uncommon. After getting over with the confusion, once you be at ease with yourself, your dull and boring life can definitely become exciting. Once you start liking yourself as you are, others will surely follow. Meeting bisexual people has become so easy nowadays. You can find several bisexual or bi-inclusive groups at your locality. Here, you get the chance of meeting like-minded people with whom you can set up a dream date or even settle down in near future. The helplines and bisexual resource centers can also be of great assistance. One cannot possibly change his/her sexual orientation, so it’s better to accept a person as he/she is. Bisexual people cannot be stereotyped; they are as diverse as heterosexuals and homosexuals. Some of them may opt for lifelong relationships while others may prefer one-night escapades.

Being bisexual cannot debar oneself from dreaming of a family of his/her own. Having children via adoption, surrogacy measures or artificial insemination is quite common these days. With the development of one’s sexual identity, the degree of attraction that a bisexual person feels towards either of the sexes may vary. Some bisexual people are not comfortable with the term. This situation has given way to various other related terms like ‘bi-curious’, ‘not straight’, ‘omnisexual’ and ‘pansexual’ etc. But, researchers and psychologists always advise to come out with one’s true sexual identity as it has been proved time and again that the ‘coming out’ process often paves the way for a calmer and happier life.

As per researches, sexuality is largely determined at the time of birth. As a southpaw picks things up with his left hand instinctively, the passionate yearnings that a bisexual feel for both sexes come spontaneously. Neither bisexuality can be forced upon anybody, nor psychotherapy or other interventions can change sexual orientation of a person. It’s fine to get drawn towards members of both the sexes. Some bisexuals (gays, lesbians as well) prefer to call themselves ‘queer’. The term, though once used as an insulting label, is hailed with respect nowadays. Some bisexual people take long time to decipher their true sexual callings while others are quite sure of their inclinations well before adolescence. With maturity, they become capable of nurturing a satisfying and committed relationship with a person from either sex. Just listen to your heart and you will come to know about your exact nature, you don’t have to rush into any conclusion.

All types of sexual preferences, including bisexuality, are absolutely normal. Bisexuality is neither a matter of choice that can be altered, nor a disease, which can be cured. And whatever you pretend to be, you will always remain as you are. Being bisexual doesn’t make a person obsessed with sex. Persons from both the sexes may sweep him off his feet, but not each and every men and women. Just like straight people, bisexual persons select their partners on the basis of looks, intelligence, personality etc. Bisexuals are free to have male and female partners simultaneously, but they are not bound to get into multiple relationships at the same time. Most bisexual persons just wait for the right person to fall in love and the gender often becomes irrelevant in the process. Being a bisexual, you are free to live your sexual life in your own terms, provided that it doesn’t hamper the lives of others. — Jason Rase provides free gay sex chat services and amateur group sex dating online. Source: http://www.articletrader.com