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Nylon: the last taboo

Stockings... whore?“I just noticed a posting on the Vogue web site fashion forum. A woman didn’t want to do ‘the whole nylon thing’ when dressing-up. Because, get this, ‘some people may think that you’re a prostitute if you wear nylons.’ So that, folks, in the year 2001, is the symbolic state to which stocking-wearing has become.

“Reading the postings here over the past few months I have definitely noticed a transatlantic divide on the stocking issue. In the UK stockings are seldom worn because of the general and lamentable decline in dress standards and trend towards shabby ‘casual’ attire (which applies as much to men as it does to women).

“There does not seem, however, to be much actual disapproval of stockings and suspenders per se. From the postings of our North American correspondents (and especially those from the US) it would appear that there exists quite a measure of outright hostility toward both stockings and the women who wear them. It seems very odd. Can anyone enlighten the board as to just why and when this hostility developed?”

Nylons are, these days, associated by the Western mind with sex and prostitution. This is a stereotyped image, which results largely from about 70 years of glamour photos and erotic films. It is very interesting to note that the use of the dildo by lesbians – which was a common feature of erotic imagery but was in fact far removed from the truth – has in the last decade been adopted by the lesbian ‘community’. How extraordinary that pornographic images, created by straight men for the enjoyment of straight men, have so influenced the sexual behaviour of those women who – superficially – reject men (whilst they simultaneously admire women who masquerade as men!). Basically, human behaviour is influenced/determined by fashion. The baby boomers, bra burners and the rest of ’em think they’re thinking for themselves – in reality, they are just fellow passengers in a never-ending fashion parade. Tell the feminists that nylons are a form of ‘female empowerment’ – and they’ll wear ’em!

“Could some of this be latent emotions placed upon young ladies today by their bra-burning, hairy legged mamas? The baby-boomers’ children are in high school and college now, and are probably poisoned with their wacky ideas. I never understood the boomers’ whole value system – don’t want the children to have a basic moral upbringing, no manners, any sense of right and wrong, etc. because that’s all false; people should just suck it up and take you at your lumpiest – but they’re afraid to admit that they smoked a little weed in college and slept around – for fear that they’ll try it too.

“Here’s my other theorem: part of it comes from pantyhose being made now with more Lycra and spandex in them than ever before, which when worn all day, seems to hold the heat and perspiration close to the body. This is especially true in the summer around the waist area.

“As for being thought of as a prostitute for wearing nylons -who gives a damn? Are we all a nation of lemmings?”

“You are not alone in your wonderment of the people in this country: Grunge clothes are an expression of individuality, but a lady who chooses to wear glamorous lingerie must be a slut. Girdles are frowned on but pantyhose manufacturers are doing everything but dipping women in a vat of Lycra up to their waist to ensure that waist to toe compression.

“Pantyhose did NOT replace stockings because there was anything wrong with stockings – they were billed as being more convenient and more suitable for shorter skirts.

“Even on this forum, some posters want to set moral standards on what age is ‘proper’ for a young lady to wear stockings. There is an impression that it is not possible for a lady to want to wear stockings for any reason OTHER than sex and the gratification of their mates.

“The hostile people one correspondent encountered in the health club last month would not have given her a second thought if she had purple hair and a chain connecting her nose to her nipple! But because she was wearing NORMAL lingerie from the period prior to pantyhose she was harassed.

“Woman need to concede that there are a lot of hypocrites out there that talk out both sides of their mouth and brains. I only wonder what new diseases and maladies will plague woman as, as you pointed out, pantyhose gets more and more confining and restricting. Maybe I need to complete my pre-med studies – might be a run on doctors.”

A Spiritually Uplifting Experience

How many out there have thought of going into an “adult” shop but have never done so out of embarrassment? “What if someone recognises me?” is a popular excuse or maybe you feel they are “dirty” places where perverts go to get their jollies. So what if someone recognises you. Throw it right at them before they can say anything or look at you in anyway. Say, “Yeah I was just in this sex shop here and boy do they have a good selection of butt plugs. I would have bought some only I already had this enormous vibrator and these crotchless panties.” Sex is nothing to be embarrassed about, sex is fun, and you’re supposed to have fun with it. If fun for you means body chocolate and leather chaps then you go for it, go all out for it.

As for those who feel that sex shops are dirty and the realm of perverts, there’s a whole new genre of sex shops out there catering for more sensitive, selective and aesthetically picky women. Oh yes, women. Women are taking charge of their own sexuality, this means more than women leading sexually risky lives and it means more than women taking more initiative within their sex lives as a couple. It means that they are taking control back of their sexuality completely. Sex toys allow women to take control of their own pleasure. They decide which toy, where, when and how long. They decide whether or not to include their partners if they have one. And they can decide how much to include their partners.

One advantage of sex toys that you may not think of, other than all of the obvious ones, is that they can increase communication in your relationship. They are a good way of demonstrating how you want things done, and of showing the results of having it done properly. They open up the communication lines regarding sex and once you can talk freely about sex, really what can you not talk about? Virtually nothing is taboo. Your relationship becomes more open and honest and benefits all around. And you have all the fun in the world at the same time.

Another quite popular thing at the moment, and something that a lot of women are far more comfortable with rather than actually going into a sex shop, is Pleasure-Ware Parties. Think Tupperware parties but with dildos and lubricant instead of tubs and lids. These are organised by one adventurous/curious woman who invites as many friends as possible (15 is usually a good number) and they all get together one night for a good giggle and some elucidation. The friends need not all be women, couples are more than welcome but most parties are usually women only because that’s how women feel most comfortable. It’s when they feel freest to touch and examine the products to their hearts content and also, to ask the boldest, most direct questions. When hosting a Pleasure-Ware party it is important to let people know what to expect, the party must be consensual for all concerned. A large table is needed to display all of the products. Alternatively you need a lot of putting place. There are a lot of products that need to be displayed.

Some recurring questions, usually to do with vibrators, are regarding size and design. The key recommendations here are start small and start simple and when you are used to these, move up. If you have a boyfriend/husband you may use him as a size reference. It is also recommended that you always use lubricant; it makes everything easier and more fun all round. Do not forget to clean your toys after use. This is very important. It is important because it is basic hygiene and we all love hygiene, and it is important because cleaning your toys will help them to last longer.

After all the giggling and laughing and examining and questioning and explaining have been done, there is an opportunity for everyone who is interested to place orders for their favoured items.

The world of sex is far more mainstream now than it has ever been before. It is now welcomed into the living rooms of housewives and business executives with ease and anticipation. If it can be so easily welcomed into our homes, surely it is no stretch for us to be able to walk towards it and enter sex shops with equal equanimity? Embrace the true sexual revolution. Do not be embarrassed about the leather harness or edible undies that you buy. People envy those who are sexually free. Its time you took those steps and liberated yourself.

 

About the Author

Sandra wrote this article for the online marketers Whet sensuality emporium one of the most refined adult shops in SA